Don't try to be what aren't you, be what you are truly, then be extraordinary. It's better to be hated by others because you're being true to yourself than loved, because you're trying to be somewhat you're not to please them and appreciate you, you may not liking yourself as much as they do to you. It's the phenomenon of the life's reality, that, some people just don't get along with us, we may can try or be with anybody we would like to be with, but to be match and gotten along, it's not really something I believe in our hands. Being your truest self can be difficult and troubling sometimes, for others may not agree or even hate for you, cause your truest being just confronts their personality, way of thinking, perceptions, likeness, taste, other things or private reasons. So, to match yourself with other people's standards which different with your pure personality would be costly, cost your time, power, energy, and most perhaps, your very freedom. But, this doesn't call for you to be anti social or close to apathy, sometimes, it's necessary and needed to match to other people's standard for your own goodness, but not for your most or whole life, just sometimes. So you can be able to get along with specific situations you need to be able to be. This also calls for you to be aware and reminded, to not be very selfish or put your ego above all, you are in need as a human being to be in the best balance between being yourself the truest and to be with some people that have different standards which you need to adapt for and in positive purposes. If you can be so, then you can still have your very own independence, nature, personality, rights and freedom to live your life the way you ever wish and most important to be true to who you are, but not to cross, the keys of morality, other's rights and freedom too unless, it's demanded by good reasons, and positive purposes. Like, to stop what someone is doing wrong, to continue the happiness of more people around. And don't be dogmatic, you have to have reasons for any of your actions, and that reasons must not be based by fears, confusions, blinded faith, or the wrong reasons. How to justify a reason is wrong? It's wrong at least when, someone's reason attacks or even take other's freedom and rights for a personal reasons, or private faith that only belong to one specific individual or community. Like, Nazi to kill all the jewish people. It is necessary to be open, with anything, but must always aware with their own being, and not fearful or suspicious to anything. So, if you have principles for your life, it's good, but I think, principles are not something to live for, but something to live with. There's difference, if you've to live for your own principles, there may be time when your principles are expired if to be applied to the era you're living cause, things change, so it's not impossible that one day, you may find reality where you need to change your principles, so you can adapt with it's time, but still not losing yourself. It's a call to be flexible and to be tight in the right time, not all the time, but in the right time. It's the same as, you'd to wear a rubber shoes, it's easier and comfier if to compare with leather shoes, it's not the same, but you're not to wear rubber shoes to special occasions, it's the time to wear leather shoes, and you'd feel perhaps the uncomfortable effect of the shoe's material and shape, but it's to respect the people who invited you to that special occasions, and to wear rubber shoes at normal daily times, it's who you are completely being yourself, but you can't be completely like that to special occasions, you need to adapt for respect, and appreciation, but still, not losing yourself. And if you'd wear leather shoes of all time, then it's you being so uptight, because however, leather shoes surely hurt more than rubber shoes, it's the reality of leather shoes, not as flexible as rubber shoes. And shoes here can be see as "perceptions" or "ideology" of others that you need to fit in for your own goodness, sometimes. You can see this in any way you like.
